Face it. There are people who are just not aesthetically pleasing. And there are people who are not sporty, people who are not smart, and people who are not creative. Do you think a coach is doing his player a favor when he applauds a bad play?
Do you think a teacher is doing his student a favor when he gives perfect grades to a bad assignment? The mature thing to do would be to point out the mistake, and give the kid a chance to practice till he gets better. If you look unpresentable because you dress untidily, you should iron your clothes and polish your shoes. The above average effects , as they are called, are common. For example, 93 percent of drivers rate themselves as better than the median driver. Of college professors , 94 percent say that they do above-average work.
People are unrealistically optimistic about their own health risks compared with those of other people. For example, people think that they are less susceptible to the flu than others.
Stock pickers think the stocks they buy are more likely to end up winners than those of the average investor. If you think that self-enhancement biases exist in other people and they do not apply to you, you are not alone. Most people state that they are more likely than others to provide accurate self-assessments. Why do we have positively enhanced self-views? The adaptive nature of self-enhancement might be the answer. Conveying the information that one has desirable characteristics is beneficial in a social environment.
People may try to deceive others about their characteristics, but deception has two main disadvantages. First, it is cognitively taxing because the deceiver has to hold two conflicting representations of reality in mind: the true state of affairs and the deception.
The resulting cognitive load reduces performance in other cognitive functions. Second, people are good at detecting deception and they show strong negative emotional reactions toward deceivers. Since in self-enhancement people truly believe that they have desirable characteristics, they can promote themselves without having to lie.
Self-enhancement also boosts confidence. Researchers have shown that confidence plays a role in determining whom people choose as leaders and romantic partners.
Confident people are believed more and their advice is more likely to be followed. But thinking we are more beautiful than we really are may not be such a bad thing. I have come to peace with it all.
Living in an appearance based world I learnt very early on in life that my looks would never be my commodity. Which I did. I learnt to be funny and quick-witted. To read and be educated. That is a fact. I'm sure physical beauty comes with its own disadvantages. Post continues below. To be chasing and attempting to not only maintain, but turn back the clock. To feel invisible once the heads stop turning for you. To seek that magic elixir to freeze you in time. Do you wonder if people love you for who you are or because they simply are drawn to your magnetic reflection?
We need beautiful things to stare at in this world. I'm proud of the fact that in this world that is completely obsessed with the outside, everything I value about myself, every inch of confidence I have attained is built from my insides. I don't believe we all have to love our faces and bodies. To stand naked and jiggle our cellulite with glee. There is nothing wrong with being attractive.
I think the pressure to love your entire self can be tiring and sometimes pointless. You simply have to live your life in it. I love what my body enables me to do. To hug my friends, to feel sand in between my toes, to write, to bake cakes with my children.
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